I guess I have sidetracked due to things happening in our everyday lives but I have only introduced D, R and doodle bug. I need to go forward and let you meet the rest of the crew. After doodle bug had been medically stable for a while (or as medically stable as can be expected with him) we fostered some more wonderful children. It is such a wonderful experience to be able to help children and their parents. To see when everything works out and children can go home to their birthparents because no matter what that is where they want to be. Sometimes though that is not what can happen.
When we were looking on line at http://www.adoptuskids.org at a baby one of our friends was looking at putting their homestudy in on we saw a little girl. She had an NG tube running in to her nose and with her left arm immobilized due to a brachial plexus injury she just looked so cute. We read her profile which told very little but when reading between the lines at what wasn’t said we knew we were interested. We sent our homestudy in on her and did not hear back at all for 7 months. We had kind of figured that they were not interested in us but then we got a phone call that they had picked our family. I know I was pretty surprised and honestly I know that my husband was too. We went down to meet her and was so blessed to also get to know her wonderful foster parents. They are now a huge part of our lives and we are so blessed to have them. F is a beautiful little girl who is mixed race African and Native american. She is a beauty who was born so addicted and in such a terrible way that she has many physical issues and also has extensive brain damage. She is FASD but also was so oxygen deprived she had further brain damage. F is a miracle to us but also just a miracle that she is doing so well.
We were blessed to bring her home when she was 15 months old. She was not doing a whole lot yet and was still fed by G-tube. She was not able to walk or crawl. She could hop on her bottom and use her right arm to propel herself. It was an interesting looking method but boy could she be fast. We were told that she would never walk or talk. We were told that she would be a “bed baby”. She learned to walk and run. She talks a mile a minute (she may not always make a lot of sense) but boy can she chatter! She is no bed baby. She barely likes to be in her bed as she has just too much to do.
We had brought F home and while we were working on her adoption we began hearing about a teen who was in the emergency foster shelter and really needed a home. He was FAS and had some past issues that were making it hard to find a placement for him. We had fostered teens before and teens with FAS and therefore were kind of nervous about his age. We kept thinking that he was not for our home but then it was like everywhere we went we heard about him and how he was so struggling at his current placement. Finally we agreed we would meet him and take him to McDonalds for a visit. We were with him about 2 minutes and watched him stay in his hoodie and just peak out. We knew we were going to bring him home. On our second visit we took him to the house and he sat with the kids. They were all on little ride on cars. It was something to see this 5 foot 6 inch boy on his little tike ride on. The kids were quizzing him about if he wanted to be adopted by us. We had never mentioned adoption just that he needed a home. After those 2 visits we decided to bring him in. We weren’t sure if we would be able to adopt V. His plan had been permanent foster care.
We were so blessed with the 5 children who we now had in our home. I continued to research and began to be more involved in mentoring. I will continue to introduce our crew in the next few blogs. Thank you for letting me.
Do NOT drink if you could become pregnant. It is just not worth it. Your child will pay a price you would never want for them. FASD is the only birth defect that is 100% preventable.