You never realize when you start parenting an FASD child that you are actually joining a special group. That this group will become the biggest and most important group in your lives. Some of them you may never even meet but they are there during a roller coaster ride through each day. I now have cyber friends who I am closer to than some of my childhood friends. You see if you do not live in the world of FASD you just cannot understand. You may try to understand but you just can’t because I never could have even imagined it before.
Being able to tell someone how while explaining to your son that you needed him to pick up all the rocks in the yard so you can mow you come back to him happily stacking wheelbarrows full of rocks in the grass. You then do not know if you should laugh or cry. As obviously during the great explanation you just gave all he got was rocks and grass. He feels he has greatly accomplished the task assigned. If you are to say that this is not so imagine how crushed he will be. So do you praise the huge piles of rock and forget about the mowing or do you risk his self esteem and try to explain what you really meant?
Needless to say a lot of us end up with rock gardens instead of well mown lawns. To be able to have people who will laugh with you when you talk of the day when you walked in and your kitchen was flooded by your 7 year old who just watched a cartoon about a whale wash and was recreating it with the kitchen sink sprayer all over your newly remodeled kitchen. The child who is so proud of their new toy that you realize you never paid for and cannot figure out where they got it and all of the stories you are getting do not sound very plausible. The child who needed a quarter for gum at school and decided to offer her classmates the chance to pay her a quarter so she wouldn’t pinch them and then could not understand why she was sent to the principals. As after all she did offer to allow them to pay her the quarter so she would not do it…let’s all get things in perspective.
So this is my thank you to all of the internet ladies (and the few gentleman) who support me and my family and very often my sanity. I don’t know what I would do without you!